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Single and happy why is it wrong??
Hi all well i'm on after two stressful days of my sisters wedding which was beautiful, i was so happy for them both.
Everything was great except the one thing that always happens to me at family events, yep every family member wanted to know why i was still single.
Now i'm 21 love life, my family and my job i socialise yet enjoy my own time, and i am happy being single. People find this so hard to believe, my mum just smiles and almost proudy says i'm too career minded and whilst i am that isn't it.
Something happened when i was 17 that made me change as a person, and i realised that to get through it i had to grow as a person on my own before sharing my life with someone. So i did grow that is and i found how happy i was being single, so i have never put much effort into relationships yet i don't discourage them, i just take things as they come.
So there is my breif history but what gets me that people around me still think its wrong that i'm single. Its almost like they pity me like in the olden days when women didn't get wed by 21 they were considered old maids LOL. I just feel sorry that society still views things like this, i'm confident and although not always happy i know being a couple wont solve the problems that make me unhappy.
So what do you think am i strange for not wanting a relationship? don't get me wrong i'm a romantic at heart and love soppy love things but at the same time i realise that love is hard to come by and even harder to keep. So should i spend endless time trying to find the right guy or girl? should i be in a relationship even though i'm unhappy just so it seems normal?
I'm just intrested in what you think about this even though i wont change lol but am i wrong when i think of the future i can see that its possible i could grow old and never marry or have a serious relationship or have anymore children, yet when i think of this i am happy with that thought.
So should we all be in relationships after all what else are we here for lol thats what someone said to me, and i guess its right in a way.
Sorry about the rant just thinking through stuff do not worry i don't want advice just your thoughts on relationships? are you happy being single or do you not feel complete alone ? just what do you think? 
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8/3/2003, 5:55 pm
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Re: Single and happy why is it wrong??
I think people should leave you alone your only 21. I have a freind thats like 23 and still lives with his parents and still has not got his licence back from his DUI when he was 21.I dont think they shoulf worry about you till you get close to 30. I have a heart time believing you will not be single your hole life. There is not many girls out there like you. You have alot of good things about you. Your very sweet kind and love sex. Some guy will get to know you one day and he will change your mind about being single. I am not sure if i want to be single or not. I feel lonely some times and wish I had someone to cuddle with. And I kinda want kids some times I do and some times I dont lol.
I remember when I was a kid and we all took a nap in my parents and I lay my head on my dad chest and I could feel his heart beat and feel him breath. I want to have kinds to do that with in future and a wife  .There is nothing like a kid its part of you. aw thinks of all the little TJs running around  my poor wife lol. I think as long as your happy being single then there is nothing wrong with it. Bit I think if you meet the right guy he will make you feel better. I could be happy being single till I layed down in my bed alone. Then i would be wanting a women badly because it would be so lonely. I look forward to cuddling more than sex.
I think you just have not meet the right guy yet Laurie.I when you do he will help fill that empty spot in your heart. Ok I am going to stop rabbing I am about to cry now thinking about what your future husband would say to you Laurie .
Love TJ
PS: good luck on finding that lucky guy you will call a husband.
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8/3/2003, 6:39 pm
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Re: Single and happy why is it wrong??
LoL ahhhhhh still stuck on little TJ's yeah your right but i am happy being single thats the point i'm just not intrested in relationships or kids, it may change but if it doesn't people will probably pity me LMAO when i don't even want it or need it. Marriage ahhhhhhhhh no way ever lol but maybe your right, love tends to change everything so if i ever fall in love again things may change, but he will have to drag me down the aisle to marry him and agree to adopt kids lol  It just bugs the crap out of me when people look at me in sympathy when tey realise i'm single LMAO its like i should be with someone *sigh* your such a sweetie tj i'm gonna miss you when i go away
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Re: Single and happy why is it wrong??
Dont worry I will help him drag you down the aisle. Oh yea I will just carry you in in my arms lol. Just dont hit me lol. Wait till your 40 and your single lol then everyone will feel sorry for you.
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Re: Single and happy why is it wrong??
I am a single and happy 22 year old by choice.
And being asked why am I single (by very nosy members of my Family) really makes me annoyed.
I have a particular nasty cousin who likes to point out that my clocks ticking and I dont want to be leaving it too late.
This from someone who's 25 and about to pop out no.5
The truth of the matter is that I am HAPPY and I havent met anyone I could possibely spend the rest of my life with yet!
And if I do meet someone one day that I'm crazy about and vice versa, I still might not get married.
Commitment doesn't equal a piece of paper.
A marriage licence wont guarantee a faithful spouse.
Saying that I never want to go through life not being a mother.
I honestly lookforward to being pregnant one day, or failing that,adopting.
Either way it will be a gift.
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Re: Single and happy why is it wrong??
ok i dont relly have a say in all this im only 15 but i have older sister and when i say older sister i mean 34,36,38 so i know something, not much but a little... ok you probley right about being single at your age it probley nice knowing that you can go somewhere and not haft to worrie about the other persons feelings that you went there but you are going to hit an age when if you do have a husband by this time he should help with wanting kids its like the next step in your head it like ok i got a husband but theres still a hole there and trust me a kid fills ever hole you could have left if it a boy or girl you will love it more than life it self... wait why am i talking about this im only 15 hope i helped in some way
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8/8/2003, 3:04 am
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Cutie T
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Re: Single and happy why is it wrong??
single and happy i can understand that lol it is not for me but i can understand it lol... 8sighs* ok some of you probably know this but i am a VERY needy and VERY attention needing person i ahve eben alone most of my life with VERY few frineds and LOTS of wannabe lovers ppl i loved to DEATH and would die for but did not feel entirly the same for me and yes i know this sounds ****ed up comeing fomr a 15 year old but anyway i have lifed for beyond my yers.... in anycase Laruei if you are haqppy then ppl should leave you alone EVNE if you are UNHAPPY they should leave you alone as it is your biz and not theres unless you bring them into it your loe life in peerson al..
with love
as always i lvoe you
Travis
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Your not my god,
your not my friend,
your not the ones that i will walk with in the end,
Your not the truth,
your a temporary shot,
and you Ruin peoples' lives and you don't give a second thought
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